If you’re having one those days where everything goes wrong, I feel you! I’ve entered into a stressful portion of my life and I’ve had to figure out how to deal with it, in a healthy way. These are some of the ways, tips and tricks I use manage stress.
First, you’re going to need to identify triggers of stress: these can be anything from kids, to work deadlines, a nagging spouse or never having enough time. When you idenifty what about these triggers cause you so much stress ask yourself if there is another underline issue. For example, if you’re constantly running late and your list of to-do’s never ends than your issues could be improper time managment and feeling inadequate because nothing is ever done.
Let’s be clear here for a moment, you can’t control everything. Life is unpredicatable, even for the most well-planned and organized people. Once you accept this, (which is a major struggle for myself), you’ll learn to pick your battles in life, and be less stressed in general. How? Simple, ask yourself will this matter in 5 years from now?
The laundy is piled up, there are unanswered emails, toys everywhere or your kid is having a melt down and you’re feeling the pressure to deal with it all. Does it matter the laundry is not done? Nope. Will your kid suffer some kind of life altering experience if you don’t stop that melt down? Nope. What my point is, you need to prioritize what is most important now, and pick your battles from there.
How do you prioritize? Easy, write down everything you want to accomplish that day, and pick the 3 that are most important to you. Tackle the item that you want complete first, that way it’s done. Life happens, stuff doesn’t get done, but there is no need to go crazy over it.
Now let’s talk about time management, I’m not the greatest at planning ahead, but I noticed when I do I feel better. Planning the night before and doing a few simple tasks will help keep you on track, this can be accomplished by: preparing lunches, decide what you’re going to wear the next day, make lists the night before or do some small chores at the end of the day.
Making a schedule can also be beneficial (again something else I need to try!), to do this you can use that nifty little calendar app on your phone, Google calendars, or phone reminders to help you get organized. You can break down your schedule monthly, weekly, daily and hourly. First start off monthly, write down any days bills are due, classes, appointments (in my case blog posts…) then fill in your weeks. Monday’s are garbage day, tuesday’s laundry, wednesday’s dance classes, and so on. Once you’ve established the big picture by filling in the little pieces you suddenly will have more clarity.
Prioritzing + Time Managment + Schedule = Clarity. Organization. Less stress.
Now that you have some clarity, what do you do to feel more relaxed? If you take anything away from this post, I want it to be this; make yourself a priority. This is so important for your mental, emotional and physical health. How are you suppose to function if you can’t take care of yourself? This is critical for everyone, so make the time to do something you enjoy, that’s just for you. What is it that you find relaxing and puts that pep in your step? Figure it out and do it.
The best way I deal with stress personally, is exercising everyday. It takes my mind off and any stress, I feel happier after a workout and it’s great for my health. I also love essential oils, so I when I feel stressed I turn on my diffuser and open windows to let some fresh air in. Physically going for a walk in nature or the beach is also a great stress reliever. Photography and writing are also other ways that I relax, as they take my focus off my stress.
Tip: Change your perspective on your stress triggers. Focusing solely on just your stress can greatly amplify it. Soon as you catch yourself getting upset, try to undertand the reasons that are causing stress, so you can get a better understanding on how to deal with them. Such as reinterpeting how you feel about something or weigh in on how much of an impact something can have on you and whether it’s worth it.
This is why thinking postive, self-healing and understanding thoughts works. If you constantly focus on the negative thoughts, feelings and situations, it tends to takeover. Sometimes leaving a fustrating problem or situation for a period of time to focus on a postive task can bring you clarity and control. Over-thinking usually leads to more stress, and can lead to self-destructive thoughts or actions.
If you feel like you can’t handle the stress, talking to someone or venting is another option. You can try venting to a family or friends, writing out your fustrations on paper can also help. If you are depressed, stressed out and sad please talk to a medical professional because this is serious and shouldn’t be ignored.
Remember: You are just as important as anyone else and your feelings matter. It’s brave to find the strength to ask or seek out help if you’re struggling.
Here is a small list of stress relievers you can try:
- Going for a walk in nature
- Taking 10 deep breaths and counting down from 20
- Talking about what is stressing you out
- Yoga and mediation
- Using essentail oils to reduse stress
- Cleaning and organzing
- Gratitude journal (writing down everything/everyone you’re thankful for)
- Hugging someone you love
- Spa night
- Hot bath or steam shower
- Creating a mood board
- Listening to music that speaks to your soul
- Speaking to a doctor/counsellor
- Helping someone out
- Watching a funny movie
- Drink more water and cut down on the caffeine
- Get a better quality of sleep
- Plan ahead and prepare for the next day
- Wake up earlier and go to bed earlier
- Create a morning routine
- Listen to a podcast
- Change your mindset from negative to positive by changing your perspective
- Hire help or ask for help from family and friends for certain tasks
- Stay off social media first thing in the morning and right before bed
- Be in the moment, shut off your phone
Well I hope this blog post helped you feel less stressed and gave you some type of clarity. What are some of your stress relief tips or advice you can share? Leave them down in the comments below, and subscribe to our newsletter yet for exclusive content!